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Took my 4 month old & my 3 year old to see their doctor today. Well visits. Height. Weight. Vision. Ears nose throat. Fruits & veggies? Sleep? Milestone checklists.

Then they bring in the percentile charts.

Should I feel good about where they are?

I wonder.

What did it look like before the CDC, the WHO and the AAP told us the “shoulds”? What was parenting like without percentiles?

I went to a mom conference before my first was born. I was still working at the time. The speaker talked about how as moms we often let our kids be our reviews, or our report cards. She talked about how we shouldn’t do that. I had no idea at the time how difficult that would be.

I don’t know about y’all but I seriously judge myself by how my kids are doing. When the meltdown happens I wonder what I did wrong, and when he poops in the potty by himself I feel like there should be a crowd of people giving me a slow clap for my awesomeness.

So we got percentiles at the dr office and then we got facebook groups for every category of parenting. I had to quit social media for about a year because of all the madness that was on there due to politics. Other than the politics was the parenting craziness. Parenting on social media is almost as heated as the politics! Lots of judgement there. Breastfeeding vs formula, cosleeping vs cry it out, daycare vs stay at home mom. Lots of areas for judgement from other people, not to mention the self-inflicted kind.

Today I’m grateful for: healthy boys, a fantastic pediatrician and last but certainly not least a super amazing husband who is a spectacular father. I’m doing my best to define myself by who Jesus says I am, and not by my mom hair, yoga pants, Facebook status or percentile ranking.
What’s your mama guilt about? Where do you feel like you’re struggling with mamahood? I gotta tell you, you’re doing awesome. Don’t listen to those percentiles, and maybe stop following some of those groups on facebook. What if we were out in the old west, and didn’t have any of that? We’d be working hard, loving our kids and keeping our families fed. That’s enough. Love em hard & feed em.

Good job mama.

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What is Rooted Firmly

There are plenty of blogs out there. In fact, I myself have started plenty of blogs. They sit here in my wordpress menu staring at me. I have 100 new ideas a day. My strength is vision, starting things. My weakness is finishing. Will this project be any different?

I hope so.


I’ve had a change of mind. I call it a paradigm shift. I don’t see it as some kind of hobby or thing I am going to do in my free time anymore. I see it now as a stewardship. I know in my heart that I have something to say. 

I’ve been reading some of the stewardship parables in the Bible. I’ve also been studying the creation story in Genesis. I am doing a study called Five Aspects of Women. In the study I’m learning that I have been given things – time, talents, resources, circumstances, and a passion. These things are tools for me to use to complete the job I have been given. I will talk much more about these ideas in future posts, you can be sure. For today I’m just giving a little background.

My intention is for Rooted Firmly to be a blog about many things, but of one thing: Womanhood. I want to talk about life. My story, your story, our journey on this Earth. What is the point? How do we make it better? What about these questions in our hearts? What about the struggles and tensions of life? These are the things I want to discuss with you. I also want to talk about life. DIY’s and decorating. Children and marriage. (we can also talk about how i like to use fragments as part of my writing style) I hope to write about many things. We will see how it goes.

The idea of Rooted Firmly is about understanding what you are planted in. Your root system is your worldview – it’s what you believe. It lies underground, so you don’t always see it, but it impacts every aspect of you. I want to be Rooted Firmly in Truth. I want to bear fruit. I want to help others do the same.

Thanks for reading. 

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