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Took my 4 month old & my 3 year old to see their doctor today. Well visits. Height. Weight. Vision. Ears nose throat. Fruits & veggies? Sleep? Milestone checklists.

Then they bring in the percentile charts.

Should I feel good about where they are?

I wonder.

What did it look like before the CDC, the WHO and the AAP told us the “shoulds”? What was parenting like without percentiles?

I went to a mom conference before my first was born. I was still working at the time. The speaker talked about how as moms we often let our kids be our reviews, or our report cards. She talked about how we shouldn’t do that. I had no idea at the time how difficult that would be.

I don’t know about y’all but I seriously judge myself by how my kids are doing. When the meltdown happens I wonder what I did wrong, and when he poops in the potty by himself I feel like there should be a crowd of people giving me a slow clap for my awesomeness.

So we got percentiles at the dr office and then we got facebook groups for every category of parenting. I had to quit social media for about a year because of all the madness that was on there due to politics. Other than the politics was the parenting craziness. Parenting on social media is almost as heated as the politics! Lots of judgement there. Breastfeeding vs formula, cosleeping vs cry it out, daycare vs stay at home mom. Lots of areas for judgement from other people, not to mention the self-inflicted kind.

Today I’m grateful for: healthy boys, a fantastic pediatrician and last but certainly not least a super amazing husband who is a spectacular father. I’m doing my best to define myself by who Jesus says I am, and not by my mom hair, yoga pants, Facebook status or percentile ranking.
What’s your mama guilt about? Where do you feel like you’re struggling with mamahood? I gotta tell you, you’re doing awesome. Don’t listen to those percentiles, and maybe stop following some of those groups on facebook. What if we were out in the old west, and didn’t have any of that? We’d be working hard, loving our kids and keeping our families fed. That’s enough. Love em hard & feed em.

Good job mama.

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Not a coincidence 

Today my amazing church started a series called “Voices”. The guest speaker was Jeremy Cowart. He’s pretty remarkable and he’s got a powerful story which he shared today. It’s about story; telling story through art & photography. It’s about the power & importance of story. It’s also about believing the Word when it says “I can do all things through Christ, who gives me strength”. Jeremy shared that his dad spoke that verse into his heart & mind. It is transforming Truth. 

What Jeremy’s story illustrates for me is what it can look like when we let go. When we live in and embrace the fullness of who God created us to be, and seek His face, he opens doors and get us involved in the work He is doing. That work is so much bigger than any silly thing I could come up with, and I’d much rather sign up for God’s design than my own. He has designed the solar system and the circulatory system, I’d say he’s pretty good at design. I can’t even organize my garage. 

It’s no coincidence that yesterday I start writing this blog and today I get this massive shot in the arm of inspiration. It may sound a little hokey to you but I like to think it’s Gods way of saying yes, you’re headed in the right direction, keep it coming, Leigh, keep it coming. 

When you look into the everyday of your own story where do you see the little hints and nudges from God? Where and when do you get your big inspirational moments? How do those things link together? I know, because I’ve done extensive research into my own story, that when you look at a map of your life you can see themes & trends. God is telling a story. You’re writing it, but it’s His. He owns everything. 

It’s not a coincidence. 

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